tips to be a good friends

Do not dispute with him and do not be hostile to him.
Do not ridicule him. Do not quarrel with him. Instead accord friends the respect they deserve.
Imam Hassan (as) Says: "Befriend people in the same manner you would like them to befriend you."
Do not hold him in contempt nor consider him to be lower than you. Instead guard the honor of your friends during their absence and after their death.
Do not claim precedence and supremacy over him. Instead forgive the short-comings of your friends, because everyone makes mistakes in life.
Do not crack indecent jokes with him.
Finally, we ask Allah (SWT) to make us of the righteous ones and give us companions that will take us away from His Wrath and lead us to His Pleasure and Paradise.

a good friends

Good friends are those who share with their companions both happiness and sadness. If we share our feelings with the wrongdoers whose actions are worthless and based on corruption, then we are following the same ways and standards as they are doing, and we will end up being as corrupt as they are, and then we are in a big trouble, how can we face Allah's (SWT) dissatisfaction and displeasure? Instead of making friends with the misguided ones we should befriend the righteous, yet treat the rest in a gracious and just manner. Staying at sufficient distance is necessary; yet treating everybody in a noble and kind manner is required.

The meaning of frienship

Friendship is such a beautiful gift. A friend in need is a friend in deed after all. A friend is a very important person in one's life. Those who have worthy friends are never lonely and friendless in the world, since in joy and sorrow, their true friends help and support them. Naturally, a human being feels happy at the companionship of friends, and is sad at being lonely and distress and having no worthy companions.

what if......

What if............ 

Friends tell you their secrets

Friends are meant to share

Friends are meant to cheer you up,

What happens when they’re not there?

Is it hard when you don’t have

Someone to lean upon?

When you need a friend to care,

but they, your friends, have gone?

What if you were split

Up from your best friend?

Do you think you’d care

If your friendship ends?

Would you slowly drift apart,

Go in separate ways?

Or would you both grow closer

Grow closer day by day?

What if your friends started

Saying things behind your back?

Would you stand and face them,

Or would your courage lack?

Perhaps it would be safer

To let your friendships mend,

Push these thoughts behind you,

And make the questions end

Remember

As I sit alone

With the warm sun on my back

I realise something’s missing

A part of me which lacks.

Could it be the trees,

Reaching for the sky?

Or could it be the children,

Walking home, who pass me by?

Perhaps, I miss the birds,

Chirping sweetly above my head?

All I feel is restlessness

A part of me is dead.

I know now what it is.

Now I realise what is wrong.

It’s the feeling, they call solitude,

All my friends are gone.

Of course I know,

That as we grow,

We have to make our way,

We all must plot a different course,

To go by everyday.

I always thought my friendships,

Would be round,

Just like the moon

But you see,

I am not ready,

For it all to end so soon.

I miss their happy laughter,

Floating on the wind.

I miss the many secrets,

That circulate within.

The only way to keep,

Our friendships woven tight,

Is to keep in contact always,

And then we'll be right!

Friendship Forever
Two inseparable friends, Sam and Jason, met with an accident on their way to Boston City. The following morning, Jason woke up blind and Sam was still unconscious. Dr. Berkeley was standing at his bedside looking at his health chart and medications with a thoughtful expression on his face. When he saw Sam awake, he beamed at him and asked." How are you feeling today Sam?" Sam tried to put up a brave face and smiled back saying, "absolutely wonderful Doctor. I am very grateful for all that you have done for me. "Dr Berkeley was moved at Sam's deed. All that he could say was, "You are a very brave man Sam and God will make it up to you in one way or another". While he was moving on to the next patient, Sam called back at him almost pleading, "promise me you won't tell Jason anything".
"You know I won't do that. Trust me." and walked away.
"Thank you " whispered Sam. He smiled and looked up in prayer " I hope I live up to your ideas...please give me the strength to be able to go through this..Amen"

Months later when Jason had recuperated considerably, he stopped hanging around with Sam. He felt discouraged and embarrassed to spend time with a disabled person like Sam.
Sam was lonely and disheartened ,since he didn't have any body else other than Jason to count on. Things went from bad to worse. And one day Sam died in despair. When Jason was called on his burial, he found a letter waiting for him. Dr Berkeley gave it to him with an expressionless face and said" This is for you Jason. Sam had asked me to give it to you when he was gone".

In the letter he had said: " Dear Jason, I have kept my promise in the end to lend you my eyes if anything had happened to them. Now there is nothing more that I can ask from God, than the fact ,that will see the world through my eyes. You will always be my best friend........Sam".
When he had finished reading Dr. Berkeley said " I had promised Sam to keep his sacrifice he made a secret from you. But now I wish I didn't stick it Because I don't think It was worthy it" .
All that was left for Jason while he stood there was tears of regret and memories of Sam for the rest of his life .

Lesson of the story: No matter what If we make a friend, we should stick by him till the end. Life is meaningless without a friend.

 

apakah ciri-ciri sahabat yang baik?

               Apakah ciri-ciri seorang sahabat yang baik? Seorang bijak pandai berpesan kepada anak lelakinya: “Wahai anakku, sekiranya engkau berasa perlu untuk bersahabat dengan seseorang, maka hendaklah engkau memilih orang yang sifatnya seperti berikut:

* Jika engkau berbakti kepadanya, dia akan melindungi kamu;
* Jika engkau rapatkan persahabatan dengannya, dia akan membalas balik persahabatan kamu;
* Jika engkau memerlu pertolongan daripadanya, dia akan membantu kamu;
* Jika engkau menghulurkan sesuatu kebaikan kepadanya, dia akan menerimanya dengan baik;
* Jika dia mendapat sesuatu kebajikan (bantuan) daripada kamu, dia akan menghargai atau menyebut kebaikan kamu;
* Jika dia melihat sesuatu yang tidak baik daripada kamu, dia akan menutupnya;
* Jika engkau meminta bantuan daripadanya, dia akan mengusahakannya;
* Jika engkau berdiam diri (kerana malu hendak meminta), dia akan menayakan kesusahan kamu;
* Jika datang sesuatu bencana menimpa dirimu, dia akan meringankan kesusahan kamu;
* Jika engkau berkata kepadanya, nescaya dia akan membenarkan kamu;
* Jika engkau merancangkan sesuatu, nescaya dia akan membantu kamu;
* Jika kamu berdua berselisih faham, nescaya dia lebih senang mengalah untuk menjaga kepentingan persahabatan.
* Dia membantumu menunaikan tanggungjawab serta melarang melakukan perkara buruk dan maksiat
* Dia mendorongmu mencapai kejayaan didunia dan akhirat

 

The perfect friend

I thought I had found the perfect friend,
But it only took about a week for that to end,
I thought there was hope left in my life,
But as it turns out, it was only added strife,
I thought for once I had done something right,
But I quickly corrected that oversight,
I thought I wasn’t useless or a bore,
But I was all that and even more,
I thought there was a purpose to my days,
But that was only a very short phase,
I thought you weren’t like all the rest,
But like those before, you failed the test,
I thought you would stay with me, at least for a bit,
But you decided it was better just to quit,
I thought life was worth living for a moment in time,
But the life I wanted could never be mine,
I thought the hunger inside had been fed,
But now I know, I was just being misled.
And now I think I’ve found another perfect friend,
How long before my heart is broken again

Listen

Thank you for always being there, To listen and understand me. I appreciate all you did for me, And all you still do. Thank you for making me feel whole again, For putting my pieces back together. I appreciate you putting my life back together, You saved my life. You may not understand, Why I do what I do. But you never criticized, You just helped my through. I knew I could come to you when I was down, 'cause I knew you'd always be there to pick me back up and say everything will be ok.

Friendships

 need to know if you’re my true friend,
will you be by my side until the end?
Can I tell you my secrets deep,
and trust them in your heart you’ll keep?
We are neither of us without our flaws,
can you accept mine as I will yours?
I’ll be a shoulder to cry on when you’re blue,
will you be there for me when I need you?
No matter how busy I will make time for you,
if you are busy will you make time for me too?
I will take your hand and comfort your tears,
will you hold me and soothe my fears?
I will give you joy and many warm smiles,
can we share that even across many miles?
I will not forget what’s important to you,
will you remember what’s important to me too?
With you my most favourite things I’ll share,
If only I know do you truly care?
If you can accept me as I do you,
then I will know you are a friend most true.